Weddings

Congratulations on your engagement! We are delighted that you are thinking about a church wedding and look forward to hearing from you and to working with you towards your special day.

For initial enquries about weddings, please contact Maureen Westmarland (01883 345868 or mmwestmarland@waitrose.com). It is advisable to do this in the early stages of your planning to ensure that there is sufficient time for the legal preliminaries and for your marriage preparation.

If you live in the parish of Woldingham or are on the Woldingham church electoral roll, you are able to have your wedding service in St. Paul’s church.

If these conditions do not apply but you have one of several other connections with the parish, you may still have a Qualifying Connection which entitles you to marry here. These Qualifying Connections (which are laid down by the Church of England) are:

You can marry in a CofE church if you can show:-

That one of you:

  •  has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  •  was baptised in the parish concerned or
  •  was prepared for confirmation in the parish or
  •  has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents, at any time after you were born:

  •  has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  •  has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents or grandparents:

  •   was married in the parish

And did you know that if you move house, you’re immediately connected to the church there? That means you can marry in the church of your new parish.

In all cases involving church services – i.e. going to normal church services, baptism, confirmation or marriage – this applies only to Church of England services. Even if you cannot demonstrate any of the above connections, we want to help you explore whether it may still be possible for you to marry in your special church.

(Taken from the Church of England weddings website: http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/youre-welcome/more-churches-to-choose-from.aspx)

In most cases, Banns will need to be read on three Sundays before your wedding. We will advise you about this, or about the alternative Licence or Superintendent Registrar’s Certificate procedures which need to be followed in some cases (such as where one of the partners is not a British Citizen or does not live in England).

It is important that we have time to help you prepare for your marriage and to think about the spiritual aspects of the commitment you are to make. We invite couples to a Marriage Preparation morning (shared with couples from other churches in the Caterham Team Ministry), usually held in January each year. Following this, the Vicar will arrange future meetings with you to continue your preparation and there will be a rehearsal in the church shortly before your wedding day itself.

You will wish to think about readings, music and hymns for your wedding service. We start to think about these at the Marriage Preparation morning, and further helpful advice can be obtained from the Church of England weddings website: http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/. You will then have the opportunity to meet with our Organist and Choir Master, David Ridout, a few weeks in advance of your wedding to confirm your musical choices.

The fees which apply for weddings in 2015 are as follows:

Statutory Fees (see https://www.churchofengland.org/weddings-baptisms-funerals/fees.aspx)

Marriage Service £413.00

Marriage Certificate £4.00

*Banns (additional fee for certificate) £28.00

Banns Certificate (if required) £13.00

Additional Services and Fees:

Organist £110.00

Verger £55.00

Heating (1st October to 31st March) £100.00

Organ Fund contribution £130.00

Bell ringer £25.00

Choir £110.00

**If you hire a professional Videographer

Additional choir fee £110.00

Additional organist fee £110.00